別把責任推給柴米油鹽作文
別把責任推給柴米油鹽
那日，我與兩個多年未見的朋友會面，終于明白了那句話：“歲月是一把殺豬刀，歲月是一桶豬飼料。”
朋友甲曾是文藝女青年,清高矜持,早年的時候,她有一個夢想——每年去一個陌生的城市旅行,要活得瀟灑淡然。朋友乙因為漂亮,一直都是人群的.焦點,自認為一生一世都會很幸福。后來,她們相繼結(jié)婚生子。幾年后再見面,甲明顯消瘦了,皺紋很明顯,表情落寞；乙卻胖了許多,長期做美容讓她的臉像涂了蠟一般光華,表情卻很呆滯。問及變化為何如此之大,她們的答案基本一致:被生活磨的。而且她們最終都說了這樣的話:等你結(jié)婚了,你就會理解我們的處境了。
在生活和工作中接觸過許多已婚女性,她們無一例外地向我說過這樣的話:“等你結(jié)婚就明白了�！�
如今我深入其中,才終于明白女人不愛自己的原因。房子、車子、孩子、票子、工作、柴米油鹽……來勢洶洶無法抵擋,她們的自我放棄,包含著成全主義。其實,我從來不認為人必須要為生活放棄自己喜歡的東西。在這個世界上,生活與夢想兼得的女性大有人在,柴米油鹽、琴棋書畫一樣不落,她們辛苦,但依然很漂亮。
其實,歲月不是殺豬刀,也不是豬飼料,僅是替罪羊,是人們首先把自己變成了“豬”。沒有一種吞噬不是從自我放棄開始,但愿別再把所有責任都推給柴米油鹽。
Happiness Indicators in Various Stages of Life 人生各年齡層幸福感指標
The ups and downs of life may seem to have no predictable plan. But scientists now know there are very definite patterns that almost all people share. Even if you’ve passed some of your “prime”, you still have other prime years to experience in the future. Certain important primes seem to peak later in life.
When are you smartest? From 18—25, according to I.Q.scores; but you’re wiser and more experienced with increasing age.
You’re sharpest in your 20’s; around 30, memory begins to decline, particularly your ability to perform mathematical computations. But your I.Q.for other tasks climbs. Your vocabulary at age 45, for example is three times as great as when you graduated from college. At 60, your brain possesses almost four times as much information as it did at age 21. This trade-off between sharpness and wisdom has led psychologists to suggest that “maturity quotients” (M.Q.) be adopted for adults.
When are you happiest? You have the best physical sense of yourself from 15to 24; the best professional sense from 40 to 49.
Before age 24, we believe that our happiest years are yet to come; over30, we believe that they’re behind us.A National Health Survey agrees: After age 30, we “become more realistic and do not view happiness as a goal in itself. If we maintain our health, achieve professional and emotional goals, and then happiness, we feel, will follow”.
When are you most creative? Generally between 30and 39, but the peak varies with different professions.
Mozart wrote a symphony and four sonatas by age eight, and Mendelssohn composed his best known work A Midsummer Night’s Dream, at 17, but most of the great music was written by men between 33and 39. Though the peak in most fields comes early—most Nobel Prize winners did their top research in their late 20’s and 30’s—creative people continue to produce quality work throughout their lives. For the “well-conditioned mind”, there is no upper limit.
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